A few years back, I did not present my ideas and opinions because I had a fear of being judged. I did not invite my friends and family to my theatre performances because I feared that it might not be good enough. I finally realized that the underlying reason for my fear, was my lack of confidence. However, I decided to take control of these fears by slowly building up my confidence. Here are some of the tips that I have used over the years to build my confidence.
1. Being the Best Version of Yourself
One way to gain confidence is to be the best version of you. Many people try to be like somebody else. However, I believe that it is better to compete against yourself than competing against others. I like to strive to be better version of me tomorrow than today. A year from now, I want to think about all the positive changes I have made to myself. So I suggest learning a new skill, improving upon your strengths or working on your weaknesses.
2. Fearing Others Judgment
Fearing others judgment could prevent people from giving out their opinions. I find that stage fright is often the result of the fear of others judging you. Therefore, I believe that it is important to detach yourself from the constant worry of what others are thinking. One way to achieve this is to accept that your opinions and ideas may not be accepted and to be okay with it. When you stop fearing failure you are able to do a lot more in life because it no longer stops you from taking risks and exploring new ideas.
3. Body Language
Your body language has a vital role in making you feel confident. Standing up straight with your head held high and shoulders back will make you feel more confident. Whereas, slouching and crossing your arms will make you feel insecure and more closed off. When in need of some confidence, try some of the power poses suggested by the Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy in her Ted Talk.
4. Believing in Yourself
Lastly, I think that believing in your opinions, your skills, and your talent is essential for confidence because you will be able to present your ideas and showcase your skills with more conviction.
Thanks for reading, I hope these tips will help you build your confidence!
Director of Talent Acquisition, DECA U Guelph 2017-2018